The internet is littered with claims of "heteropessimism". The always sharp Magdalene Taylor recently published an article defending dating men. For this report, I wanted to see if I could substantiate the claim that people are feeling negatively about heterosexual dating. Another thing sparked my interest. A new report by the FT that claims that phones may be responsible for the decrease of fertility rates. The reporter astutely remarked that phones may be responsible for a decrease in socialization (more screen time means less people time) but that however they may also be a vector to disseminate new ideologies or societal feelings that hinder the formation of relationships. I used TikTok for this reason as there is quite a bit of dating discourse on there.
966 videos analyzed
Central Question
Is heteropessimism rising over time?
Heteropessimism is coded when a video combines cynical or negative sentiment
with a worldview of "dating is broken" or "protect yourself" —
the ideological mood that heterosexual relationships are structurally exhausting or not worth pursuing.
Cautionary content that is ultimately hopeful does not qualify.
Platform comparison
Is heteropessimism more prevalent on TikTok versus Reels?
Sentiment Breakdown Over Time
Heteropessimism Rate by Gender Target — Is the gap widening?
Ideological Gap — Women vs Men
Progressive vs Traditionalist Framing Over Time
Most Common Themes
Dominant Worldview
Narrative Clusters
hover a cluster for its argument · bubble size = share of videos · click a linked bubble to open its TikTok